Clarifying boundaries – Vulnerability with Internal and External factors

Who am I in relation to the External Influences? All the external Influences in your life: Relationships: all the people...... who have ever loved you........ and all the people you have ever loved. Family – past and present, boyfriends, girlfriends – past and present, friends, friends of friends, pets, tutors, acquaintances’, authority figures, employees, employers All the Material things: Money, job, finances, career, space and time, homes, cars, environment, climate, chemicals ____________________________________________________________________________ All the internal influences in your life: The Heart – the Fire element and the Heart protector’s: ● Small Intestine – the Yang functional partner to the Heart ● Pericardium - Yin partner to San Jiao ●San Jiao – the Yang functional partner to the Pericardium (regulates the body’s thermostat) All allow clear boundaries and determine the Supreme controller - our Heart function to nourish Earth, in turn nourishing Metal, in turn nourishing Water, in turn nourishing Wood and so, we get to the Heart of the matter and allow appropriate command and control. The Key: is to tune in, hone awareness, listen to the whispers of thy Heart, identify physicality, emotionality, mentality and Spirit when resolving negative emotions which may be internalized I ask myself: when I hear, see, feel, sense being…. Upset – Angry – Frustrated – Rage – Resentful – Jealous - Bitter – Disappointed – Hurt – Afraid - Sad Unsafe – Lonely – Abandoned – Worthless - Non – emotive – despair – disdain - disgust False self-assuredness - False pride – Muddled – Ashamed – Helpless – Depleted - Paralysed Lost - Deep un - requited love – Afraid - Terror ● when I am being blamed for the way others feel or when they make the issue about me or when I am sensitive to “somebody else’s” emotions.... I remember: the only thing I need to ‘own’ is my Internal influence. Am I being true to the light and love within me? the External Influences show this to me - time after time after time the Key: “It is the light, compassion and love within me which may determine my Vulnerability to these Internal and External influences” Remembering this….in amongst whatever the experience with any of the above emotions, allow honor and respect of one’s own truth and other’s truth. We can evaluate, feel, know and resolve now internally within myself that: “I am of light and love, no-one can take that away from me, my light, my Fire will not go out and this is how I will go forth to sustain myself. I see now that other’s emotions being vented onto me had nothing to do with me. Other’s feelings are their responsibility not mine.......... this was not and is not my pain to own. I can only extend empathy for others, comfort and support others with their feelings. My Fire element is at peace and I am back on my throne as Supreme Controller of my inner and outer world.